Showing posts with label Middle School. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Middle School. Show all posts

10.14.2009

I've Known Since I Met You, HAVE YOU MET YOU?! [Movie Transcript]



Bill: OK, so my Coming Out was a little bit later than most people's. I didn't come out until I was 20. It was the end of my sophomore year of college.

I think I've known that I was gay probably since I was 7th grade, because I just kinda knew I liked boys. But I never really want to admit it to myself because I didn't want to be
different. And I was also raised in a homophobic household where my dad constantly told me that gay people were less than everyone else, so I didn't want to be apart of that.

So I just repressed it within me until I came to college, at the end of my sophomore year. I first came out to one of my friends here and told her. I said, "I think I'm gay." And she goes, "Yeah... I've known that since I met you. HAVE YOU MET YOU? It's pretty obvious that you are!" So I was like, "Alright."

And I learned to accept myself pretty quickly, so I was happy with that. How I realized I was gay? I had a guy friend who was just my friend but I realized that, to me, he was more than a friend. I was really attracted to him. ...Nothing ever happened but it did get me to Come Out.

On the Gettysburg campus, a lot of people think that it's a really homophobic school but I haven't really had any problems. I'm out to all of my friends here. And I would say that I'm
completely Out. If anyone ever asked me, I would always tell them. I don't just volunteer it... without there being a reason for me to tell somebody I'm gay usually. But I would say I'm totally Out.

At home... not so much. Both my parents know but they've asked me not to tell any other family members because, I guess, it'll embarrass them. So I haven't told any other family members.

So yeah, my Coming Out was definitely stressful because I knew it was going to be a tough issue at home. My mom's OK with it now, but for my dad, it's definitely tough for him. So I try to be understanding to the fact that he doesn't really accept it, but it's kinda hard.

9.06.2009

MY FIRST TEENAGE LOVE AFFAIR: The 1st Woman To Truly Break My Heart (Nelly)

First woman I ever fell for was my first real ex-girlfriend and the only one to ever truly break my heart and screw me up for relationships to come. She wasn't my first crush; no, that belonged to a girl I met in 8th grade... younger sister to another girl we went to school with. And I think she might've liked me back, but I never knew for sure. She was in 6th grade then, and made my heart pound in ways it's never done before.

I never told her, as I wasn't completely aware of my sexuality then. All I knew was I liked to hang around after school, walk her halfway home, and part ways with her when I needed to head back to my house. Some days I'd go back to school to walk her home.

It was weird, because it felt most natural to just hug her... hold her close and just keep her there, where I knew she was safe. No one really knew about her, let alone that I was so attracted to her. And, because all grades went in through different entrances back then (yes, our middle school was *that* stupid), when she and her sister (same grade as us) came to the front entrance I sometimes walked her over to the other one; or, in most cases, she just stayed with us.

I wasn't out in 8th grade; I had an inkling that I was gay, as something else happened that year: one of the other girls came up to where my friends and I were sitting at lunch and asked me if I wanted to go out with this guy named Jamal. I automatically responded with a no, citing it being weird that he shared a name with my brother. Of course, I wasn't attracted to him either; I just thought he was a nice guy.

Unfortunately, when I graduated middle school and went on to 9th grade, I rarely saw her. After about a year, she disappeared from the area entirely (as some people do). I'm half tempted to look her up on MySpace now, but wouldn't really know what to say to her. It's been years, y'know?

MY ROCKETMAN: I Will Always Love You (James)

The first (and possibly, the only) man I ever really loved was... well, let's just call him by his old petname, "RocketMan." ;-) He and I met in the 6th grade. He wasn't all that bright, so the only classes we had together were Band and Gym. To tell you the truth, in the beginning, I actually had my eye on his best friend, who was also in the class. BUT... HE was the one who seemed fascinated with me and for some reason, loved to horse around in the locker room.

But I digress. I didn't start falling for him until the 6th grade overnight Band Trip to Busch Gardens. We shared a hotel room with two other guys with only two beds, so we chillaxed on the floor; as you might guess, fooling around ensued.

After nearly three years of courting back and forth and after his best friend moved away, he and I started hanging out at each other's houses every day after school. As I got to know him and realize that he was NOT as dense as I originally thought, I fell head over heels for him. And so, on one fateful Saturday afternoon in May of 2001, we both lost our virginity... while my parents were in the living room right above us. XD

Our relationship was almost entirely a secret, until one of my girl friends heard him say something she shouldn't have (about a "private sleepover invitation"), one day in English class. Back then, I liked the secrecy, I liked holding onto the hope that I was just bisexual... but nowadays, I feel that there's no place for secrecy in a mature relationship and VERRRRRRRRRY few men out there are worth hiding who you are.

Sadly, once we reached high school, we never had another class together and rarely ran into each other, but whenever we did and STILL do, it's as if no time has passed whatsoever and just the sound of his voice makes the hairs on my neck stick up... in a good way.

I'm extremely glad and lucky that my first time was with someone who I genuinely loved and will always love, now as a friend. We're forever connected and nothing will ever change that. ♥

SLIGHTLY BISEXUAL: Generally I Pursue Relationships With Men (Tory)

I first questioned my sexuality in 8th grade. I had a wonderful science teacher who was so nice to me and I had a bit of a crush on her. I eventually dismissed it as friendly feelings and nothing more.

In high school I was often attracted to women, including some of my friends, but since I spent my first few years of HS in Virginia, which is still very unaccepting of homosexuality, I ignored it again.

After coming to college and discussing my feelings with both high school and college friends, I understand myself much more. I consider myself slightly bisexual...in general I am attracted to men and pursue relationships with men, but I am also attracted to women, though I do not believe I will ever have a relationship with a woman. I don't usually act on my bisexual feelings, but I comment more about it to people who know me the best.

CARETAKER: I Always Wanted To Be the "Man" in the Relationship (Nelly)

The first time I had homosexual thoughts was when I was a little girl I suppose. I didn't know what it was, but I always wanted to be the "man" in a relationship and told my best friend at the time I was gonna marry her when I got older. It took me a while to figure it out, yes. I didn't realize I was probably gay until I was in 8th grade. I was sure that year because I wanted to be as close to this sixth grader as I possibly could be for a while. And there was this one dance I went to..... yeahhhhh....

I'm sure other people knew I was gay before I knew. My mom told me she knew before I knew. I'm sure most of my friends knew before I did. And it made it a whole lot easier to come out because most of them didn't even bat an eye when I came to school one day with my "I Kiss Girls" t-shirt on.

Sometimes I question my identity. I mean, after numerous failed relationships I think I may be more asexual than an actual lesbian, especially because I'm not a big fan of sex... for various reasons.