YOU ARE SUBJECT TO INSPECTION: My Sorority Sisters Size Up My Dates (Nelly)

I'm more likely the person to ask someone out. I usually tell them through sweet little things like mix CDs or waiting up all night just to talk to them. I normally don't pursue the crushes because, normally, what will happen is I'll be digging the girl and she'll turn around and get a girlfriend.

I usually spend an hour getting ready for dates. I try to look my best and in my top form: hair is just right, glasses spotless, smelling nice, clothes aren't wrinkly, breath is fresh, the whole nine yards. I usually take them out to restaurants or the movies. The traditional first date things. I usually pay, because that's just what I do.

The best date I've ever been on was a random one with my ex-girlfriend: she came down to visit from her school and I took her out to lunch. We spent most of the time talking while she played with my class ring and we wrote little notes on the table to each other.

1st base would be kisses/hugging, 2nd base would be make out sessions, 3rd base would be heavy petting/snuggle time, and home is sexy time of course. I don't really have any general rules for any of them: if we're feeling it, we could go all the way to third base on the first date. Never sexy time on the first date though. I'm not *that* easy.

I can usually tell if she wants to... she'll get this look in her eye and I'm on it. Other times I'll politely ask if I can and go from there. Most times we don't even get to the date, because she's gotten a girlfriend by the time I'm ready to ask her out.

I'm very much relationship-minded, despite recent developments in my personal life. I'm very tired of The Hunt, and coming up disappointed and hurt. It's hard to have faith in love when all you've gotten lately is slaps in the face telling you "You're cool, but I don't want you" from the greater lesbian populous. If we combine the two-times I dated the same woman, the longest relationship I had lasted two years and seven months. That doesn't count the roughly nine-month break we took from each other because of distance.

I know two girls who have been together for the last couple years, and two that are on rocky ground I guess right now? That's about it. I've wanted to try the dating game for a while now, but I know my jealous side wouldn't let me not think about the girl dating someone else as well as me. It's very troublesome actually.

When you're in a sorority, it's hard to keep a date under wraps for long periods of time. So, if the date can't pass sorority inspection, it's not exactly happening, because my sisters are my extended family.

IF the date passes that inspection, then EVERYONE knows within the coming weeks. Especially if we're both on Facebook, because then it has to be published on my profile for the world to know.

I have been in two long distance relationships. With the woman I mentioned prior. I only knew her through the internet, yes, but when we met it felt like we knew each other forever. And I was happy with it.

I can't exactly stay friends with my ex's. At least, not the most recent one, because to stay friend with her would mean she'd be pining over me for a long time and wouldn't be able to move on. I'm on speaking grounds again with the one who hurt me the most, but that's because it's taken nearly three years to get over what happened and to move on. Typical Cause of Death is either I'm not feeling it, she's not feeling it, or cheating. That's about it.