TRAILBLAZER: I Came Out and Several Friends Followed Suit (Nelly)

See, being a short, black, butch lesbian kinda makes you out and auto-homo, so being gay? Pfft, I'm sure most of my friends knew before I even told them. In fact, I don't think I ever sat any of them down and had "The Talk" with them. I just... confirmed their suspicions after sophomore year in high school.

A lot of my friends... are straight girls or gay boys. I know maybe a handful of straight guys that I can say I'm close to as well. As for the not-so-straight girls... there's a few of them too, and a few of the lesbians that I'm actually *friends* with, if that's even possible in the lesbian circles!

If I lost friends because of my sexuality, that's on them. Most are very accepting of it, because it's just one facet of my personality. Of course, it's also my most raunchy side (if I don't have a girlfriend), so a lot of my sorority sisters (especially my poor little) are on the hunt for a girl who can tame it. Most of my sorority tease me relentlessly about being gay, and I've chided them a few times about pausing and then saying "...Or girls" and giving me a look.

I think after I "came out," a bunch of friends followed suit. Or they turned to me and disclosed their bisexuality to me in some instances. I guess I'm more of a trailblazer than I originally thought.

As for talking about crushes and the like... I've never hid it. But I don't really talk about them either, because I don't want to jinx myself. I disclose the potentials to a few key people, and then try and introduce the actual (when it happens) to as many of them as possible to show her they're accepting and a big part of my life as well. As for romance.... I don't really talk about my romantic side with anyone. That's my secret side, as I'm supposed to be a badass. They know about it though, so they're only allowed glimpses of it.

And sex... well they'll hit me with the straight coupling stories, so it's only fair I fire back with some of my excursions as well. And my gay boys... I've been subjected to some mental images from them! It's all good though, because for every penis image I get, they get twice as much in vagina stories. The straight guys understand they can't join, so sometimes I tell them what I've been up to with the ladies. Straight girls are the worst though, because they always want details.

I've never been on a group date I don't think. So I can't say for sure if it'd be awkward to go out with a straight couple or the gay boys. I think the gay boys would make for great entertainment on a group date though.

I don't think I've "modified" my behavior around anyone except for my family. I'm the same person around everyone. And the only reason I "modify" my behavior around my family is because I don't feel like getting into arguments with my mother at every given turn.

Some days I wish I had a censor! My poor little gets a lot of my raunchy side because I don't see my raunchiest of my sorority sisters very often. I hang out with my friends in public and private settings, so they see me as who I am.